Rami Rustom
2012-08-29 19:25:49 UTC
Societies understanding of habits is well known by most people. But
some of the ideas surrounding what habits are and how they are formed
are false.
Some of the misconceptions about habits comes from the fact that
psychology and psychiatry uses the term habit only in association with
bad behavior like smoking, drinking, doing illegal drugs, eating too
much, and so on. So when people see the word habit, often they only
think of bad habits. But of course there are good habits too, like
brushing your teeth.
So what are habits and how do they form? From the Merriam-Webster
dictionary, a habit is "3b : an acquired mode of behavior that has
become nearly or completely involuntary."
Notice the "nearly or completely involuntary" part. Nearly involuntary
means that the person finds it hard to do a different behavior. So he
retains some individual responsibility. That means that a person has
the ability to commit a different behavior instead of his habit. And
he could do this again the next time he is in a similar situation in
which that habit "wants" to control him. And again the next time. And
in this way he can create a new habit, thus replacing the old habit.
Sounds optimistic!
But the definition also says that there are habits that are completely
involuntary, which means that the person finds it *impossible* to do a
different behavior. So he retains absolutely no individual
responsibility for committing the behavior. This means that there are
a certain sort of situations that a person finds himself in whereby he
is absolutely not responsible for his behavior. But in these
situations people believe they are irresponsible only because they
have false knowledge about habits. The point is that they **are**
responsible, but they don't know it.
One of the misconceptions about habits is that some people are
genetically predetermined to have *less* control of their habits and
of changing them than other people. Note that they claim *less*
control, not zero control. So what does that mean? It means that these
"genetically inferior" people still do change their habits. So what is
the difference in the sort of situation that a "genetically inferior"
person does change a habit versus the sort of situation that he
doesn't change a habit? The difference is knowledge!
To illustrate my point, consider this. A 5 year old has the habit of
sucking his thumb. He is absolutely ignorant of habits, of what they
are, and how people change them, and how they "control their hosts".
He's ignorant of them because he's never self-reflected on his own
behaviors, and his parents never talked to him about habits, and the
TV shows and movies he watches don't talk about habits. So his mom
talks to him on his 5th birthday and says, "Johnny, you're 5 years old
now (while holding up her hand with all 5 fingers spread apart).
You're a man now and men don't suck their thumb." Johnny was
wide-eyed. He wanted to be an adult. So he no longer wanted to suck
his thumb, because that meant that he was still a kid. That went
against his new self-image of being an adult. And so he stopped cold
turkey. He no longer had the habit of sucking his thumb. He didn't
need, and didn't get reminders. His mom forgot about the conversation
all together. By the end of the day she noticed that she hadn't seen
Johnny suck his thumb at all. He was persuaded. He changed one of his
values. He no longer valued sucking his thumb because that
contradicted his valuing adulthood.
So Johnny went from having a habit of sucking his thumb to ridding
himself of that habit in one conversation with his mom. How could this
happen? What changed in him that caused this flipping of a switch? And
what does this say about habits?
-- Rami
some of the ideas surrounding what habits are and how they are formed
are false.
Some of the misconceptions about habits comes from the fact that
psychology and psychiatry uses the term habit only in association with
bad behavior like smoking, drinking, doing illegal drugs, eating too
much, and so on. So when people see the word habit, often they only
think of bad habits. But of course there are good habits too, like
brushing your teeth.
So what are habits and how do they form? From the Merriam-Webster
dictionary, a habit is "3b : an acquired mode of behavior that has
become nearly or completely involuntary."
Notice the "nearly or completely involuntary" part. Nearly involuntary
means that the person finds it hard to do a different behavior. So he
retains some individual responsibility. That means that a person has
the ability to commit a different behavior instead of his habit. And
he could do this again the next time he is in a similar situation in
which that habit "wants" to control him. And again the next time. And
in this way he can create a new habit, thus replacing the old habit.
Sounds optimistic!
But the definition also says that there are habits that are completely
involuntary, which means that the person finds it *impossible* to do a
different behavior. So he retains absolutely no individual
responsibility for committing the behavior. This means that there are
a certain sort of situations that a person finds himself in whereby he
is absolutely not responsible for his behavior. But in these
situations people believe they are irresponsible only because they
have false knowledge about habits. The point is that they **are**
responsible, but they don't know it.
One of the misconceptions about habits is that some people are
genetically predetermined to have *less* control of their habits and
of changing them than other people. Note that they claim *less*
control, not zero control. So what does that mean? It means that these
"genetically inferior" people still do change their habits. So what is
the difference in the sort of situation that a "genetically inferior"
person does change a habit versus the sort of situation that he
doesn't change a habit? The difference is knowledge!
To illustrate my point, consider this. A 5 year old has the habit of
sucking his thumb. He is absolutely ignorant of habits, of what they
are, and how people change them, and how they "control their hosts".
He's ignorant of them because he's never self-reflected on his own
behaviors, and his parents never talked to him about habits, and the
TV shows and movies he watches don't talk about habits. So his mom
talks to him on his 5th birthday and says, "Johnny, you're 5 years old
now (while holding up her hand with all 5 fingers spread apart).
You're a man now and men don't suck their thumb." Johnny was
wide-eyed. He wanted to be an adult. So he no longer wanted to suck
his thumb, because that meant that he was still a kid. That went
against his new self-image of being an adult. And so he stopped cold
turkey. He no longer had the habit of sucking his thumb. He didn't
need, and didn't get reminders. His mom forgot about the conversation
all together. By the end of the day she noticed that she hadn't seen
Johnny suck his thumb at all. He was persuaded. He changed one of his
values. He no longer valued sucking his thumb because that
contradicted his valuing adulthood.
So Johnny went from having a habit of sucking his thumb to ridding
himself of that habit in one conversation with his mom. How could this
happen? What changed in him that caused this flipping of a switch? And
what does this say about habits?
-- Rami